Psst… Hey you. Yeah, you. You know who you are. You are the perpetual nurturer, hand holder, volunteer, and shoulder to cry on. You’re likely highly sensitive, empathic, or just an all around generous, kind and caring human being.
The problem is, like many people who are nurturers and caregivers, you probably put taking care of yourself on the back burner over and over again. Pretty much the only time you stop taking care of everyone else is when you finally wear yourself down to the point that you get sick and are forced to lay low for a few days. Even then, you’re probably still cooking dinner, doing laundry and washing dishes.
Like a flashlight in the dark, if you keep on burning through the night without recharging your batteries, you’re light is going to burn out. Or think of yourself as the proverbial candle burning at both ends. Eventually you will run out of fuel, and those who have come to depends on you will no longer be able to reap the benefits of your kindness and generosity.
It is important to remember that you can only give out what you’re allowing yourself to receive. And this means that neglecting to take care of yourself can negatively impact the quality of care you give others. You’ll get cranky and short tempered with those who need you, skip important steps, or make a serious mistake.
Now, while a long vacation is certainly a fabulous idea, it’s probably not practical unless you really do happen to have a lot of vacation days that you haven’t used up. (And oh my god, if you do, I’ll take them!) At minimum, taking the time to recharge your batteries can be as simple as taking a half an hour a day to yourself. The important thing is making even just a little time to give yourself a break, show yourself some love, and maybe even a little pampering.
Here are just a few things you might try to give yourself a little recharge:
- Take a walk in the woods, a park, or the beach
- Sit quietly outside with a cup of coffee and your newspaper or book
- Make a little time for a sport you enjoy, such as golf, swimming, canoeing
- Draw, paint or do something else creative
- Treat yourself to other hobbies that make you happy
- Have a candlelight bubble bath
- Get a facial, manicure or pedicure (or all three!) or do a home facial
- Get a massage: some therapists offer shorter chair massages that can be more affordable than a full massage for those on a tight budget.
- Have a Reiki treatment or other type of energy therapy
- Enjoy a glass of wine and a book before bed
- Animal Therapy: Play with your pets, walk your dog, or see if your local shelter needs people to walk dogs and play with their cats.
- Take yourself on a date to the movies or lunch
- Meditate (And if you think you don’t have time check out this book!)
This certainly isn’t the be all end all list of things to do, and you might find something completely different to be relaxing and rejuvenating.
You don’t have to do all the things, and you don’t have to dedicate hours a day to taking care of yourself, it’s just important that you think about your own well being every day, even if it’s just a quick meditation break or a walk around the block.
Once you’ve taken care of yourself, I promise, you can go right back to taking care of everyone else!
Love & Light.